“Those rabbits stopped fighting the system, because it was easier to take the loss of freedom, to forget what it was like before the fence kept them in, than to be out there in the world struggling to find shelter and food. They had decided that the loss of some was worth the temporary comfort of many.” — Alexandra Bracken, The Darkest Minds
It limits you. Having to be “strong” for someone else. To be “strong” for everyone else. To be available, to be reliable, to be wise. To be a console and consort, constant and consistent, considerate. To be there for them, waiting, patient, tolerant, understanding, listening, supporting. Predictable. To be “strong” for them, with them, to have that “strength”, that resilience, in abundance for them to draw-upon, to top-them-up, to replenish them, encourage, re-enthuse. To humour, to inspire, motivate. It limits you, to all-ways be the “strong” one, the resilient.
“So much of what we call abnormality in this culture is actually normal responses to an abnormal culture. The abnormality does not reside in the pathology of individuals, but in the very culture that drives people into suffering and dysfunction.” — Gabor Maté
“It is sad to see what Desire makes foolish people do.”